About this event
A) When Race Comes Between Us: Repairing Ruptures in Mixed Relationships
Kintsugi is a Japanese art that repairs broken pottery with gold, rendering a new piece that is more exquisite than it was before the break.
“ The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” — Rumi
Have you ever felt unseen or misunderstood in your interracial relationship?
When a racial rupture occurs, how do you both tend to the wounding?
When race enters the room, how does it shape your relationships?
This experiential seminar offers a supportive space to explore the complexities of racial breaches in mixed race relationships.
Whether with a partner, friend, co-parent, or colleague, navigating racial dynamics can lead to both deep connections and painful ruptures. Through personal storytelling, guided discussions, and reflective exercises, we will explore how to tend to ruptures with care, honesty, and courage.
What Happens When a Racial Breach Occurs?
Through Charmaine and Lizzie’s lived experience, they have identified
Four Stages of a Racial Breach:
The Shattering – A rupture occurs, leading to a breakdown in communication and trust. Pain, grief and loss arise.
The Retreat – Both individuals begin to process the pain separately, confronting feelings of abandonment, shame, anger, white fragility, internalized racism and hierarchy of culture in feelings and expressions.
The Orbiting – A delicate dance of circling each other, staying with the discomfort rather than rushing to resolution.
A Different Season – The relationship evolves. How do we return to each other truthfully and with care?
Who is this event for:
This seminar is for individuals in significant mixed race relationships, including:
Romantic partners (cohabiting, married, or dating)
- Close friendships navigating racial differences.
- Strong working relationships (colleagues, business partners, co-creators).
- Divorced or separated co-parents who remain connected through their children.
- Psychotherapists who want to deepen their understanding of how to tend to racial and cultural ruptures in relationships.
Learning objectives:
Use the four-stage model
(Shattering, Retreat, Orbiting, A Different Season)
as a guide for navigating racial ruptures in intimate, familial, social, and professional relationships.
Foster trust and resilience in mixed race partnerships
Gain a deeper understanding of the emotional and psychological effects of racial tension to sustain long-term, healthy relationships across racial differences.
Engage in meaningful repair and rebuilding
Understand how to navigate racial breaches in ways that foster deeper connection, accountability, and ongoing growth.
RECORDING
This event will be recorded and you can use the ticket function to pre-purchase the recording before the event. This will be useful for colleagues who are not able to attend the event live and also for those who attend the event live and want to watch it again.
ZOOM
This event will be hosted on the Zoom meeting platform where we will use our cameras and microphones to interact with each other as a group.
SELF-SELECT FEE
The self-select fee is a radical inclusion policy to open learning for all colleagues. The guide price for this event is £20.00, however, we appreciate that income varies greatly in different locations and circumstances. Please contribute what you can to help us maintain inclusive professional training.
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All the colleagues at ONLINEVENTS and the presenters we collaborate with are committed to working in a manner consistent with the BACP Ethical Framework, which can be accessed on the link below. When registering for this event you are agreeing to be present and interact in a manner that is consistent with this Framework.
Charmaine McCaulay
Charmaine is an integrative body psychotherapist specializing in healing the psychological, emotional, physical, and spiritual wounds caused by race and racism. She facilitates the “Racism in Real Time” workshop, an experiential process engaging participants’ minds, hearts, and souls to foster new racial narratives. This transformative journey empowers individuals to claim their rightful space and embrace a more authentic humanity.
Lizzie Cummings
Lizzie is a drama and movement therapist who has worked in schools, mental health settings and private practice for 23 years. Her approach is embodied, using play and imagination to help access and aid the expression of internal and relational conflict and to promote healing and personal growth. Lizzie is grappling with and tending to her own internal racist as a small part of the larger endeavour to understand and help heal the racial wounding suffered by humanity. For the past four years, she has worked along-side Charmaine who has created and delivered her unique course Racism In Real Time.
Website | www.kokorotherapy.co.uk
