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accountability 51, 137
accreditation 39–43, 45, 47, 48, 50,
76, 77, 101, 102, 108, 110,
111, 114, 116
achievable, realistic targets 261
action plan 17, 26, 27, 30, 123, 136
active listening 298
addiction 186, 285, 288
addressing positively 54–5
ADHD assessment 250–62
adversity 25, 158
alcoholism 285
altruism 121
anti-procrastination 60, 206
anxiety 16, 95, 119, 186, 189, 193,
200, 249, 251, 276
approval 64, 104
ask client to summarise session 27,
52, 72, 91, 112, 135, 155, 173,
195, 221, 258, 273, 291
assessment 14, 16, 24, 119, 120, 123,
124, 129, 248–60
atheism 257
attitude-based view of doing tasks and
not procrastinating 33–4
attitude change 25, 106
audio recording of session 49, 200
audit of strengths and positive
experiences 158
avoid the crusher 183–200
avoidance-based problems 24, 56. 63,
64, 261, 275, 294
avoidance behaviour 30, 189
avoidance habit 101–17
avoidance thinking 71, 72
bearability 31
behavioural problem 20, 23, 24
behavioural change 25, 75
behavioural contracting 129
behavioural principles 190
belief 171, 174, 182, 250, 251, 257,
260, 263, 264, 270–4, 276
benefits 128
and costs 29, 60
best interest 58, 60, 74, 234
blocks 80, 85, 88, 93, 98, 99, 117,
255, 267, 297
bluntness 298
Bobele, M. 16, 301
book analogy 145, 172
boredom 284
learning how to deal with 84–6, 99
boring activity, avoiding 82–4
boundaries and structure, creating 75–
100
burnt out, feeling 93–4
buying time 188
calm empowerment 246, 298
cancellation policy 19
Cannistrà, F. 11, 301
case formulation 14, 16
case history 14, 16
catastrophic thinking 143
catastrophising 148
celebrate uniqueness 50, 53
chairwork 26
challenge 86, 99, 161, 162, 167, 172,
182, 200, 210, 211, 223, 224,
231, 275, 294, 298, 299
chaos 147, 195, 196, 294
clarity 61, 62, 78, 98, 99, 119, 226,
276, 281
client
summary of session 27, 52, 72, 91,
112, 135, 155, 173, 195, 221,
258, 273, 291
takeaways of session 27, 52, 73,
180, 195, 200, 294
view of a good solution 15, 25, 26
Cluedo test 24
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coaching 137, 262
comfort 31–3, 41, 42, 51, 60, 160
commitment 26, 31, 77, 79, 93, 98,
99, 199, 204, 205, 207, 209,
212, 218, 220, 221, 223, 288
compassion 115, 230, 244, 249–51,
253–8, 260, 299
competence 32, 33, 41, 64–71, 73, 74,
239, 241, 276
competing 46, 249, 259, 260
completing task 53, 248
complex, unrateable, fallible, human
being 31
confidence 40, 64, 126, 140, 141, 162,
224, 234, 238, 241, 264, 274,
275, 296
confidentiality 19
contract with yourself 207
conventional therapy-minded
practitioners 12
conventional therapy mindset 13–16
costs and benefits 29, 60
counselling 64, 95, 133, 140, 149–51,
154, 162, 168, 169, 179, 192,
202, 203, 205, 229, 261–4,
266, 267, 270, 273, 274, 276,
279, 283
counsellor training 43, 44
coursework, avoiding 101
creativity 208–12, 214–16, 220, 221,
223, 224
Crème Egg mindset 183–201, 299
deadlines 164, 246, 296
decision-making 20, 22, 61, 76, 78,
139, 144, 152, 153, 161, 248,
257, 258
decluttering 76, 79, 82, 88, 91
defensiveness 121
deferring 57, 74
de-identifying yourself with issue 234
demonstrations 11, 14, 20, 39, 49
demoralization, sense of 27
depression 16
determination 62, 63, 65, 68, 78, 182,
204, 205, 221, 223, 291, 292
devaluation attitudes 106, 109
Developing Emotional Muscle
(Garcia) 175
devil’s advocate 86, 99, 131
dilemma, helping to resolve 20, 22
disappointment 99
disapproval 64
discomfort 41, 74, 112, 175, 182, 291,
300
is natural part of growth 302
tolerance 176–7
and uncertainty, dealing with 139–
63
discomfort-based procrastination 30–1
disorganisation 215, 217
distractions 129–32, 201, 284, 286,
288, 290
doubts 41, 47, 141, 154, 182, 264–70,
272–6, 294
Dryden, Windy 14, 19, 20, 26, 28, 29,
117, 172, 177, 178, 188, 293,
301
easy-on-yourself 115
echoes from past 277–94
effectiveness 18, 25, 26, 32, 98, 200,
201, 249, 259, 260, 263, 265–
8, 290, 296, 299
ego-based procrastination 30–1
eliciting client’s informed consent 19
Ellis, Albert 96
emotional muscles 175, 244
emotional problems 20, 22–4, 99
empathic ‘sounding board’ 162
empathy 181, 230, 298
empowerment 53, 182, 224, 246, 294,
298, 299
encouraging client to rehearse solution
26
ending session 27, 73
energised, needing to feel 89
energised self, towards 139–63
enjoying doing nothing 231
environmental strengths 133
essays, problems with
writing/completing 24, 56,
184–8, 190, 193, 196, 200,
278, 285
example of problem 24
expectations 52, 107–9, 180, 234,
295–6
expressing feelings about issue 20
external resources 26, 128, 210, 256
coaching 137, 262
comfort 31–3, 41, 42, 51, 60, 160
commitment 26, 31, 77, 79, 93, 98,
99, 199, 204, 205, 207, 209,
212, 218, 220, 221, 223, 288
compassion 115, 230, 244, 249–51,
253–8, 260, 299
competence 32, 33, 41, 64–71, 73, 74,
239, 241, 276
competing 46, 249, 259, 260
completing task 53, 248
complex, unrateable, fallible, human
being 31
confidence 40, 64, 126, 140, 141, 162,
224, 234, 238, 241, 264, 274,
275, 296
confidentiality 19
contract with yourself 207
conventional therapy-minded
practitioners 12
conventional therapy mindset 13–16
costs and benefits 29, 60
counselling 64, 95, 133, 140, 149–51,
154, 162, 168, 169, 179, 192,
202, 203, 205, 229, 261–4,
266, 267, 270, 273, 274, 276,
279, 283
counsellor training 43, 44
coursework, avoiding 101
creativity 208–12, 214–16, 220, 221,
223, 224
Crème Egg mindset 183–201, 299
deadlines 164, 246, 296
decision-making 20, 22, 61, 76, 78,
139, 144, 152, 153, 161, 248,
257, 258
decluttering 76, 79, 82, 88, 91
defensiveness 121
deferring 57, 74
de-identifying yourself with issue 234
demonstrations 11, 14, 20, 39, 49
demoralization, sense of 27
depression 16
determination 62, 63, 65, 68, 78, 182,
204, 205, 221, 223, 291, 292
devaluation attitudes 106, 109
Developing Emotional Muscle
(Garcia) 175
devil’s advocate 86, 99, 131
dilemma, helping to resolve 20, 22
disappointment 99
disapproval 64
discomfort 41, 74, 112, 175, 182, 291,
300
is natural part of growth 302
tolerance 176–7
and uncertainty, dealing with 139–
63
discomfort-based procrastination 30–1
disorganisation 215, 217
distractions 129–32, 201, 284, 286,
288, 290
doubts 41, 47, 141, 154, 182, 264–70,
272–6, 294
Dryden, Windy 14, 19, 20, 26, 28, 29,
117, 172, 177, 178, 188, 293,
301
easy-on-yourself 115
echoes from past 277–94
effectiveness 18, 25, 26, 32, 98, 200,
201, 249, 259, 260, 263, 265–
8, 290, 296, 299
ego-based procrastination 30–1
eliciting client’s informed consent 19
Ellis, Albert 96
emotional muscles 175, 244
emotional problems 20, 22–4, 99
empathic ‘sounding board’ 162
empathy 181, 230, 298
empowerment 53, 182, 224, 246, 294,
298, 299
encouraging client to rehearse solution
26
ending session 27, 73
energised, needing to feel 89
energised self, towards 139–63
enjoying doing nothing 231
environmental strengths 133
essays, problems with
writing/completing 24, 56,
184–8, 190, 193, 196, 200,
278, 285
example of problem 24
expectations 52, 107–9, 180, 234,
295–6
expressing feelings about issue 20
external resources 26, 128, 210, 256