Bereaved and traumatized clients: can we give them hope?
Ton Coffeng, M.D. - PCE-2018 Vienna
Principles
1.Tendency to avoid 1. Free choice to help
2. Limits 3. Break
2. Two chairs Gendlin
3. Client is the expert Bohart
4. Place 1. Place of the loss Place of the trauma
2. Place of mourning Place of Justice
5. Reality 1. Two realities of Gendlin
2. Two existential realities
6. Roundabout Coffeng
7. Pacing Re-cycling
8. Imagery, Creativity Olsen
Ton Coffeng, M.D. - PCE-2018 Vienna
Principles
1.Tendency to avoid 1. Free choice to help
2. Limits 3. Break
2. Two chairs Gendlin
3. Client is the expert Bohart
4. Place 1. Place of the loss Place of the trauma
2. Place of mourning Place of Justice
5. Reality 1. Two realities of Gendlin
2. Two existential realities
6. Roundabout Coffeng
7. Pacing Re-cycling
8. Imagery, Creativity Olsen
Bereaved and traumatized clients: can we give them hope?
Ton Coffeng, M.D. - PCE-2018 Vienna
•1. Tendency to avoid “sick chicken syndrome “
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Tendency to avoid: human tendency
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Willingness to help: requires extra human step
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(van Dantzig,1999)
Ton Coffeng, M.D. - PCE-2018 Vienna
•1. Tendency to avoid “sick chicken syndrome “
• •
•
Tendency to avoid: human tendency
•
•
•
Willingness to help: requires extra human step
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(van Dantzig,1999)
Bereaved and traumatized clients: can we give them hope?
Ton Coffeng, M.D. - PCE-2018 Vienna
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Willingness to help has 3 conditions:
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1. It is a free choice , not an obligation:
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Helper and victim are equal: Victim not dependent on helper
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Helper is free to refuse now: He/she may help another time
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2. Offer of help has limits:
It does not mean: one will help forever.
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Helper keeps company for some time.
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Helper may indicate it is time to stop.
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3. Break:
We take care of client ánd therapist
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When helper/client needs a break:, we can stop a session early
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We can have a break of a week or longer
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Replacing therapist Network of therapists
Ton Coffeng, M.D. - PCE-2018 Vienna
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Willingness to help has 3 conditions:
•
1. It is a free choice , not an obligation:
• •
Helper and victim are equal: Victim not dependent on helper
•
Helper is free to refuse now: He/she may help another time
• •
2. Offer of help has limits:
It does not mean: one will help forever.
•
Helper keeps company for some time.
•
Helper may indicate it is time to stop.
• •
3. Break:
We take care of client ánd therapist
•
When helper/client needs a break:, we can stop a session early
•
We can have a break of a week or longer
•
Replacing therapist Network of therapists
Bereaved and traumatized clients: can we give them hope?
Ton Coffeng, M.D. - PCE-2018 Vienna
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2. Two chairs of Gendlin (1988):
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The meeting of two persons implies interaction.
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The interaction itself gives an experiential shift.
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The shift brings a change.
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Gendlin:
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“Keep your knowledge at one side,
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and your personal stuff at another,
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so that these are not in the way between you and the client”
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Recovering from a loss/trauma goes with small experiential steps.
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When we enable interaction, we do what we can.
Ton Coffeng, M.D. - PCE-2018 Vienna
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2. Two chairs of Gendlin (1988):
• •
The meeting of two persons implies interaction.
•
The interaction itself gives an experiential shift.
•
The shift brings a change.
• •
Gendlin:
•
“Keep your knowledge at one side,
•
and your personal stuff at another,
•
so that these are not in the way between you and the client”
• •
Recovering from a loss/trauma goes with small experiential steps.
•
When we enable interaction, we do what we can.
Bereaved and traumatized clients: can we give them hope?
Ton Coffeng, M.D. - PCE-2018 Vienna
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3. Client is the expert
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Grief: is an unique process.
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People have many ways of dealing with a loss.
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It is hard to say which way is right! (Stroebe et al, 2001).
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The same applies to recovery from a trauma.
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So it is essential to find the client’s way.
Ton Coffeng, M.D. - PCE-2018 Vienna
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3. Client is the expert
• •
Grief: is an unique process.
• •
People have many ways of dealing with a loss.
•
It is hard to say which way is right! (Stroebe et al, 2001).
• •
The same applies to recovery from a trauma.
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•
So it is essential to find the client’s way.